How to Know if Your Date Want To Have Sex with You

You can simply ask. But that will just show that you’re clueless and can’t read social cues well. Not a very attractive quality. That said, when people are sexually attracted to you enough to want to sleep with you, they will subconsciously display a few hints that you can pick up on.

These subconscious hints include, but aren’t limited to:
·        They’re incredibly comfortable near you - People who are immensely sexually attracted to you are going to be completely comfortable being very close to you and with your touch. They’ll also encourage this closeness and not shy away.
·         They’ll touch you frequently, and in uncommon places - It will seem as if it’s hard for them to keep their hands off you, and they’ll touch you in places like your neck, ears, torso, thighs, etc, where normally they wouldn’t touch you in a casual setting.
·         Their body language is completely open and facing you. There is zero defensiveness in their body language, their feet and their whole body is pointed towards you - the object of their attraction.
·         Their breathing gets deeper and their heart rate goes up. You can’t control this, your body does this on its own when you’re aroused or horny.
·         They get easily flustered. Being aroused and horny amidst all the intense sexual tension hits most people hard, emotionally. Strong emotions are quite tricky to hide and control, so people who are aroused get easily flustered, start to sweat more, and may even look slightly awkward.
·         They constantly adjust their appearance. When you’re around someone you’re massively attracted to, you can’t help yourself but feel increasingly self-conscious about your own looks. So look out for your date constantly adjusting their clothes, hiding their more apparent flaws, etc.
·         They touch themselves more often and reveal erogenous zones. Adjusting hair, touching their face, wrists, neck, behind the hears, wrist, thighs, etc. Even spreading their legs slightly. These signs are more subtle.
·         Stare at your body. Either when you’re not looking, or unabashedly. They’ll stare at your butt, crotch, lips, breasts, and wherever else where they may appreciate the goods.
·         They seem to be turned on by things that don’t usually turn them on. With enough practice, you can see this in their sensual tone of voice, in their walk, in their behavior and in how they look at you.

There are a few more subconscious signs that people display when they’re horny and want you, but these should suffice.

Now let’s tackle the thing people will consciously do when they want to sleep with you:

·         They’ll tell you. Duh!
·         They’ll start talking about sexual topics. People who are sexually attracted to you will often bring up the topic of sex. They either want it from you or want to get you to think about sex.
·         Ask about the logistics. They’ll try to figure out the best way to get to somewhere where they can be alone with you. Either by suggesting that you should get out of here and find a quieter place, asking you to come up for coffee, etc.
·         Start sexting you.
·         Make up several reasons why you should come to their place. If you’re getting invited in, either to “watch a movie”, for “coffee”, to “watch a funny video” and “see their guitar collection”, etc. - they just want an excuse to bring you home, where they’ll be more comfortable with you and can easily seduce you.

And many more.

Of course, when you see all these signs, both the obvious and the subtle ones, you should never assume that it’s a done deal.

You should never fully assume what the other person is thinking, and proceed carefully.

Go for a kiss, and see how it goes. Go a little bit further if the kiss is incredibly well-received and welcomed - and see how that goes. Then go further.

At the slightest hint of “No” - back off. No means No!

Many people will tell you that you should just ask the other person if they want to have sex with you, but there’s an inherent problem with that.

You can ask guys, and most will say yes when they’re interested. You can’t ask girls, since most will say no.

That’s because of all the stupid slut-shaming that’s still prevalent in our world. Most women will not want to seem easy - so they’ll say no, unless you REALLY like each other and truly connect and don’t really give a damn about what people think.

But most often that is sadly not the case. It usually only happens between two mature, very secure and balanced adults with healthy self-esteems, which is a rare sight indeed.

Otherwise, I can tell you from my extensive experience, that I never had to ask a girl if she wanted to have sex - I learned to read the cues and take chances - and back off when my advances weren’t met with massive enthusiasm.

Anyway, you shouldn’t even want to have sex with someone who isn’t very enthusiastic to have it with you as well.

So given that women are far more socially aware than most men, they usually don’t respect guys who can’t read social cues at all and are clueless when it comes to attraction, and have to ask for sex.

Instead, say “Let’s have sex!” and hope for a positive replyJ